BUT Is It BDSM or ABUSE ? Ask yourself the following questions
- Is It CONSENTUAL?
- Is he in CONTROL of himself?
- Does he REFRAIN from hitting you in anger?
- Are you ENCOURAGED to grow within the relationship?
- Do you FEEL valued?
- Are your RELATIONSHIPS with family and friends SUSTAINED?
- Are you EAGER to play and enjoy special times with him?
- Do you SEPERATE your BDSM play and personal interaction on a daily basis?
- Does he HONOR safewords and signals?
- In intense scenes to date...do you FEEL safe and EMOTIONALLY supported?
UNLESS you have been able to answer YES to the above questions, you are in a POTENTIALLY ABUSIVE relationship NOT BDSM!
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